Rules for having a guy best friend
We've done several articles on the rules we should all live by as men, but today may be the most important. As guys, we all have heard about the "Guy Code," but that typically only involves rules that are trying to keep men out of trouble with women. We wanted to look at the Male Friendship Code today even though we couldn't think of a better name than that. The MFC is a guide to how men should interact in their friendships with other guys. Follow these rules, and you'll strengthen friendships and probably be the coolest guy you know. Never talk down or insult your friends to a woman.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Can Men And Women Just Be Friends?
SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: 22 Reasons Why Every Girl Needs A Guy Best FriendContent:
- Best Friends, Boy Friends, and the Girl Rule
- 5 Simple Rules Of Friendship That Every Guy Should Follow
- The Rules Of Being Friends With The Opposite Gender
- A fine bromance: the 12 rules of male friendship
- 14 Rules Of Platonic Friendship And Love
- 14 Platonic Friendship Rules to Be Just Friends Without the Drama
- The 10 Long-Distance Friendship Rules My Best Friend & I Live By
- 16 Things Only Guy-Girl Best Friends Can Understand
Best Friends, Boy Friends, and the Girl Rule
Please refresh the page and retry. In academic and media circles, male friendship sometimes gets unfairly caricatured as brutish banter or competitive braggadocio. Though petting is allowed, at a stretch. But these bromances are somewhat insular; the best male friendships are often a wide and varied canvas, a loose, catholic, cohesive clan that expands and yet focuses inwards, a team of sorts, with no goals or cups to win.
Some feminists argue male friendship, while relatively overexposed compared to female-to-female relationships in film, books and popular culture, remains emotionally non-supportive. The beauty of the system is that it is never written down — unless you count small-hours texts, drunken gushes and the rings left by pint glasses on an oak table — but there are rules nonetheless.
Everyone knows a third man in a trio, a quarter of a quartet, an eleventh in a football team, who always, for some reason, has to leave in a hurry after three pints. By which we mean: romance with the other sex. Men like to talk about women, within certain frames of reference. When invited, it can be diplomatic to agree with him semi-wholeheartedly that she is beautiful, awful, intelligent, but always to a decorous extent.
Original commentary is unlikely to be welcome. Most men avoid literalness. But there is also a kind of mysticism in never quite affirming that this might just be the second, or even the , central love in your life.
Sometimes stating the obvious makes the obvious deteriorate or vanish. Stockbrokers can rub shoulders with brickies and brickies can talk nonsense with professors… male friendship has all sorts of codes but money and social class are not major factors. Yes, there will be unbearable toffs, troublesome drinkers, raving bigots.
It is a sacred space , a journey to truth, a diversion from the quotidian gauntlet. Never take a new girlfriend or wife.
You probably know your Godot, your Cage, your Pinter? Well it applies in friendship. A nod, a smile, an admission of silence, can speak volumes. Ever wondered why males talk so avidly and at length about cars, golf, Gazza, books, beer, birds, history, politics, women?
But the themes men talk about can function as mood-signals — the way a man talks about, say, Top Gear, will reveal his feelings — as well as metaphors. Trivia is, sometimes, what we talk about when we talk about love. But most men, when it comes to heart-to-hearts, would still opt for a pub over a kitchen, living room, bathroom, or back garden.
Is it that the neutral space of a beery lounge relaxes the nerves, helped on by a pint or two? Or is it that the transition from home to somewhere else permits a degree of objectivity — a way of looking back on life, love, kids? Friendship, removed from the familiar carpets and curtains of home, seems to have more room to breathe, and to be able to aim higher and wider.
Men are forgiving. They can, in proper friendships, air grievances, occasionally fall out, allow let-downs and betrayals — and the tether is usually quite long.
But being forgiven means also being prepared to forgive. But what it means is that life is not always a Venn diagram. Not everything overlaps. There is the immediate family male circle. There is the extended family circle. There are work and uni circles. Some can overlap, but then the rules change. Introduce a woman to any of the male circles at your peril. This is not sexism.
There are groups for mixed genders. There are groups that are not like that. The myth of unconditional love is maternal spin. In fact, love — like everything else — depends on a fairly strict arrangement of needs and fulfilments.
Hence divorce, evil parents, unloved kids. Striking the balance between altruism and selfishness is a delicate operation. Most men love Haynes Manuals because they express, neatly, the human capacity for ordering chaos, for getting immense power under control.
They love models. Train engines. Post-match analyses. Racing form. These are all about rules and formulae. Without them, the artistry and innovation are impossible.
This is tribal, animal, elemental — but it is also bathetic. The ability to lower the tone and make all the preceding chatter and thoughtfulness seem absurd and pretentious is itself a sort of philosophical position. We urge you to turn off your ad blocker for The Telegraph website so that you can continue to access our quality content in the future.
Visit our adblocking instructions page. Telegraph Lifestyle Men Relationships. Telegraph logo This video content is no longer available. To watch The Telegraph's latest video content please visit youtube. Buy your round. Manage romance with care. Never openly verbalise that you value the friendship. Friendship is classless. Silence is immense. Indirection can be intimate. Avoid domestic spaces. Forgive — fast. Expand the circle. But know the circle. Remember these rules.
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5 Simple Rules Of Friendship That Every Guy Should Follow
Please refresh the page and retry. In academic and media circles, male friendship sometimes gets unfairly caricatured as brutish banter or competitive braggadocio. Though petting is allowed, at a stretch. But these bromances are somewhat insular; the best male friendships are often a wide and varied canvas, a loose, catholic, cohesive clan that expands and yet focuses inwards, a team of sorts, with no goals or cups to win. Some feminists argue male friendship, while relatively overexposed compared to female-to-female relationships in film, books and popular culture, remains emotionally non-supportive.
It can get kind of weird sometimes, but at the end of the day, if it works out, they make amazing friends. Here's to the guys and girls out there who continue to defy the rules, and to my own guy best friend. I've always had a love-hate relationship with my skin. My skin takes on just as many moods as I do, especially now in my late 20s.
The Rules Of Being Friends With The Opposite Gender
Of course, the reverse could be true too. Either scenario is difficult. So, how can you have a truly platonic friendship without sexual tension and attraction getting in the way? No one has actually written a book called The Bible of a Platonic Friendship , although that would be convenient. When a person is crushing on someone, sometimes it seems like their brain has been hijacked. So, whether you are the crusher or the crushee, be careful of what you say and do. But if you have the crush, why not just be honest and just put it out there? Take a chance — you never know, they might feel the same way. Because we all know where that could lead, right?
A fine bromance: the 12 rules of male friendship
Being long-distance from your bestie may sound difficult AF, but I believe it's possible to maintain a strong friendship no matter where you both live. I try to keep in contact with as many as possible, but the strongest of all my long-distance relationships is the one I have with my best friend. We've kept close over 10 years of not living in the same state, and it's because there are long-distance friendship rules my best friend and I live by. My bestie Adam and I met in high school and immediately clicked. I knew I found my long-lost twin.
Harry and Sally. Pam and Jim. Ross and Rachel.
14 Rules Of Platonic Friendship And Love
It is absolutely amazing having a best friend of the opposite sex. It not only opens a window to understand the other gender better but also helps you grow as a person. However, it comes with its flaws. There is a thin line between being all buddy-buddy with a friend you are basically in a platonic relationship with and developing feelings for them.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Rules For Having Friends Of The Opposite Sex [While In A Relationship]
At some point in your life best friends and boyfriends will clash. Learn the girl code and how to lay out rules. Explore what to do if your bestie and man are too friendly. Let our dating coach be your guide in the world of best friends and boyfriends. Okay, so there's this guy who I thought was completely NOT my type and I wouldn't give him the time of day. But, one day my friend and I saw him at the movies and they're good friends and she tells me that I should talk to him and give him a chance, so I do.
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